10 Feb Finding Your True Love by Brittany Nelson
Everyone dreams of the perfect love story. Girls are hoping to find Mr. Darcy or Edward Cullen or Disney’s Prince Charming. But unfortunately the perfect love stories in books and movies are not real and the characters are fictional. In the real world people do fall in love, but it usually doesn’t happen like in the movies.
During this time of year, most single girls are miserable because they think that there are no amazing guys out there and that they will never get roses or a box of chocolates on Valentine’s Day ever again. I have so many friends who spend all their time complaining that they don’t have the latest heartthrob actor or musician. I’m always trying to remind them that those people basically aren’t real! They are not realizing that actors spend hours each day working out at the gym and then wear makeup on set. Photo shoots are air brushed and tweaked to make everyone look hotter. The constant flow of images of perfect couples and perfect men gives us an unrealistic expectation of what love should be and what our boyfriends should look like. Everyone watches the Bachelor and checks the magazines and websites for the newest lists of sexiest celebrities. Single girls everywhere are crying because they think they will never find someone as hot as Ryan Reynolds (People Magazine’s Sexiest Man Alive in 2010).
It makes me sad every time I see this because there are so many great guys that girls just don’t seem to notice. Because the media focuses so much on physical appearance and certain types of guys, girls have unrealistic expectations of what a boyfriend should be like. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have high standards and it doesn’t mean you can’t find someone as hot as Ryan Reynolds. However, most girls will not get a guy who looks like an underwear model, went to Harvard, saved the Rainforest, fed all the children in Africa, makes a million dollars a year, drives a sports car, enjoys seeing the occasional romantic comedy, and wants to have a big family with a dog!
Most of my friends tell me that there are no cute guys out there. Then I walk around and see cute guys everywhere and a lot of them are sweet and smart which just adds to how cute they are! Girls just don’t notice them because they are looking for a specific celebrity or hoping to find a fictitious character. So my advice to the single girls this Valentine’s Day is to know what is important to you in a guy and then let the rest just happen naturally. If a guy doesn’t have a six pack or blue eyes like your favorite magazine model, that doesn’t mean he’s automatically undateable. He might have the most amazing smile ever, the best brown eyes, and enjoys helping those in the local community. He might be the kind of guy who would go the extra mile for you. The kind of guy who will always open the door for you and respect you. Listen to your heart instead of the media and you will know what type of guy will make you truly happy for a lifetime!
Brittany Nelson is the co-founder of GWG. After many years of volunteering in international ministry, she became excited about helping other young women discover their passion. Brittany is a Jr. HR Generalist at a consulting firm in the DC area. She spends her free time exploring DC and going to Washington Wizards games with her husband, Paul.
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