10 Tips on How Feedback Can Turn into Success by Bonnie Gortler

26 Mar 10 Tips on How Feedback Can Turn into Success by Bonnie Gortler

The final proof of greatness lies in being able
to endure criticism without resentment.
– Elbert Hubbard

Within the ups and downs of the stock market you will see that sometimes emotions can change very quickly and become a challenge to control. Have you ever felt your emotions go from positive to negative because of what is happening around you? We’ve all had this experience from time to time and how you manage your emotions is critical to your experience in any given situation. Have you been in a position where you are working on a project and felt the satisfaction of knowing you made major progress, and then in an instant have a conversation with someone who criticizes your work and those proud feelings turn into you feeling deflated, less motivated and frustrated?

Outside forces can get the best of anyone, so instead of being stressed you will do your heart, soul and body good if you learn to accept in a more positive way criticisms as feedback. Whether you are working in the corporate world, an entrepreneur working from home, or the CEO in business you need to manage your emotions. Don’t let what someone says distract you from your dreams or aspirations. Staying in a place of resistance is not very productive because it can stop you from doing all that you are meant to do. You want to remain motivated to achieve your goals and you can learn much from what someone says to you, and so it’s to your advantage to find a way to process the comments. Using the information (if constructive) can help you grow and enable you to make huge leaps forward. Decide to use the information given to you to your advantage. Now consider if you have had any criticism in the last few days, weeks or month that you can think about in a more constructive way. Do you go back and forth in your mind and have that feeling of not being comfortable? If so, then remember that not all feedback will be useful but pause and see if there is a lesson. If none is there, or the feedback has less than honorable intentions then disregard and keep moving. This small exercise will give you a boost of confidence and give you have the emotional lift needed in order to continue on your quest.

Recently, I’ve been working diligently on a project to host my own webinar. I have been interviewed on tele summits, radio shows, and co-hosted a webinar for my corporate job in the past but never my own webinar. I felt I needed some guidance with what I was doing so I asked my coach for some feedback. I read her thoughts and took them personally, which wasn’t good. Especially since I had asked for it! Needless to say, for a moment my emotions got the best of me but then I stopped dwelling on what I felt was wrong in the delivery and turned my focus to what I really wanted to gain from what had been shared. In that instant I changed my mindset from negative to positive, knowing in my heart my coach was coming from a good place in wanting to support me. Initially I resisted, and then I decided no more excuses and at the first opportunity I took action on the challenge to record a chapter of my book. I used my power statement that I believe with all my heart… You can do anything that you set your mind to. It was from there that I created the webinar sharing chapter three, “Wise Investing” from my book Journey to Wealth. Her advice was the push I needed and once in charge of my emotions I had the ability to see clearly what she was sharing in an objective way which enabled me to finish what I had started, and so it’s with great pleasure to share it with you (no opt in required).

Click here to listen: http://ds1.downloadtech.net/cn1086/audio/515810376321406-001.mp3

Is there a goal that you have yet to complete? Maybe you’ve held off because of some feedback you weren’t necessarily ready to hear. I challenge you to take a moment and reflect on what you have received recently and use the tips below to get the best results in order to achieve what you really want in your life.

10 Tips on How Feedback Can Be Advantageous

• Never take criticism or feedback personally. Not everyone is going to like what you do. Ask yourself what you can learn from the feedback that has been given to you.
• Take an extra few minutes to double check and review your work one more time before giving it to someone else. Sometimes it even helps to print the document. You will be amazed at what you might have missed such as spelling, punctuation, different font sizes, words you understand but is jargon to others, etc.
• Accept that mistakes are going to happen. Do the best you can. Don’t expect perfection. Try everything you can to minimize them but even then, realize it may not be enough. Remember that another set of eyes can be a good thing.
• Learn from your mistakes. Decide how you can solve the problem or correct the mistake and move on. Don’t continue to beat yourself up and be so hard on yourself!
• Listen carefully. Think about the comments that are being made. Thank the person for the feedback and use what feel good to you.
• Jot down some notes on the feedback that you receive. Focus on how to fix the problem, not on the obstacle.
• Be open to learn from the feedback to solve the issue instead of being defensive and feeling like you are attacked. Take some time to process the information by asking yourself if it is based on fact or emotions.
• Before you react to what a person says, pause, take a breath, and give yourself some time to process before you respond. Maybe even ask a question to mask your response. Doing so will give you some time to regroup if you are face to face.
• Don’t stay mad and feel resentment by keep focusing on what is negative. Change your thought process to positive by remembering the good that was shared.
• Clear the air. If you’re upset with what someone said, wait at least 30 minutes and then tell them why it upset you. Doing so will ensure there are no bad feelings.

Learning to be open to feedback is one of the best ways I know to grow as a person. It’s an acquired skill to learn how to constructively apply feedback that is given to you, and it requires patience. You must learn to do your best to manage your emotions in order to have this work to your advantage. There is no reason to wait, let today be the day you move closer to creating what you want by listening to what others have to say. Don’t be afraid to accept criticism with an open mind and heart. You never know what you may learn about yourself. Use the feedback as inspiration as you continue on your journey toward achieving the lifestyle you desire.

You don’t have to do it alone. I invite you to set up your free 30-minute Inspired Wealth and Well-Being Discovery session at BonnieGortler.com

In living the lifestyle, you desire, Bonnie

Bonnie Gortler, Consultant, Coach, and Author specializing in Wealth and Well-Being, is a successful stock market expert who has been instrumental in managing multi-million-dollar client portfolios within a top-rated investment firm during her over 35-year corporate career. As the author of “Journey to Wealth,” Bonnie has made it her mission to share the importance of risk management and how to enjoy real financial well-being by applying the technical and mental sides of investing. Bonnie has an M.B.A. and is a certified life coach. It is through her love of coaching, consulting, blogging, and social media that she creates change in the lives of many and inspires people from around the world. Bonnie is fully committed to your personal growth and development as she shares her winning spirit and powerful techniques with you. Visit BonnieGortler.com to gain tips and insights about investing, personal development, and inspiration through her articles on Wealth and Well-Being.

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